For those who remember the Olympics when Nancy Kerrigan got hit by a pipe and cried out, “Why? Why? Why!?” let me just say we’re not going down THAT road. Our best to Nancy and all, but this post takes us to the root of it all – to the root of why you seek a resurrection. Why are you here? Why do you want to improve? Why do you think THIS TIME will be different as you pursue a healthier, more improved you?
As a former personal trainer, I always liked to lead off a program with my clients by asking that basic of all questions – “Why?” This is a question that typically catches people off guard, but it’s important because identifying your WHY? makes your reason to change so much more compelling.
This would be a typical scenario:
Client: “Hey, Jeff, I came here today to get better, to stop over eating, to change my appearance and my lifestyle – can you help me?”
Jeff: “Why do you want to improve all of that?”
At this point the client would look at me a little dumbfounded.
Client: “Uh, well, I want to get healthier. Isn’t that pretty obvious?”
Jeff: “Why do you want to get healthier?”
Client: “Well, I watch those shows on TV and they make it look doable and I think I can do it.”
Jeff: “Why do you think you can do it?”
Client (now a little annoyed): “I think I can do it because I’m sick and tired of looking or feeling like I do.”
Jeff: “Why are you sick and tired of feeling like you do?”
Client (now really annoyed): “Why are you asking me all of these questions?! Isn’t it obvious? I’m overweight, I’m not happy and if I don’t do something about this, my doctor says I have serious health risks and I could end up dying! How’s that for Why?”
Jeff: “Good. Let’s get started.”
Determining why you are ready to begin a transformation journey or a lifestyle change is not an easy task. For that and many other reasons, it requires a hard look at things – and inside YOU. Wanting to get in better shape so you can impress the opposite sex, run a 5K, fit in clothing, gain more friends – I’m not here to say there is anything wrong with that reasoning. But why do you want to impress others? Why do you want to run a 5K? Why do you want to fit in clothing? And the bottom line is usually close to this as the question “Why?” probes deeper: something is missing from your life. There’s a hole, a void and no matter how much you eat, you can never fill that void. Right?
That void, that unhappiness, is partly your subconscious and it’s reminding you that if you continue, you will eat yourself into a casket having left many things undone in your life, including friends and family. I encourage you to deeply examine your Why. For me, my daughters are my Why. If I choose poor habits and unhealthy choices, not only does this impede my health, but it sets a poor example for them to follow. Imagining them growing up without a father – or a father who dies before seeing them married or with kids of their own – those are images I can control by making improved choices today. Knowing your WHY? is usable in many areas of your life, including your financial freedom.
Before we go any further down this journey, what is YOUR WHY? I challenge you to identify it – and then post it in the comments section. Whether you are just beginning a program or ongoing with a lifestyle transformation – tell us your WHY? and post it in the comments section below. You’ll be glad you did – and one step closer to a new YOU.