Is it “Who Me?” or “Yeah, it was me….”
OK, let’s talk a little caveman today. This blog is about Primal/Paleo after all right? And while the term “caveman” is probably used more than “cavemen,” no man/woman is an island unto themselves. Hunting wild game back in the day, as well as today, often involves coordination amongst the tribe. And once the game had been and killed, can’t you see the tribe dancing around the fire, drinking some prehistoric, fermented Wooly Mammoth pee and loving life? Man is a social creature after all.
Sadly, there are those who think they don’t need anyone or they hide from others, but at the end of the day, the result is the same for these individuals. No support. And for those with no support, it kinda sucks, huh?
SUPPORT AND ACCOUNTABILITY
Support and accountability is a key component as you begin your Caveman Resurrection. Once you’ve identified your WHY and your HOW, logged it in your journal and you’re progressing, seek out a friend who will support you and create a process to check in and report how well you are doing. In this day and age of social networking, you can have several accountability partners instead of just one. I recommend finding at least one who you can interact with face to face and then find another mechanism online to trade stories or support others. Start a blog of your own, tweet your workout, update your Facebook status and confess your sins – whatever it takes. Above all, admit your faults, identify them, journal them, but NEVER deny them. You’ll only be hurting yourself.
One nice way to hold yourself accountable is through the use of Google Docs. Construct a spreadsheet where you log your meals and workouts each day. Include a notes section. Then share that spreadsheet with an accountability partner so they can see what you are eating and how you are doing. Give them permission to call you out and highlight in red the areas you strayed but to highlight the areas in green you did great. It’s easy, it’s real-time and it is one more way you can journal your progress.
An accountability partner is a close friend but one you give full permission to remind you and steer you back on the path when things go off track. Sign a contract or agreement that you both sign as a formal way that this change/journey you are going down is something you take serious.
No snowflake in an avalanche ever feels responsible.
When those moments of weakness hit, and they will, remember this quote from George Burns. None of us got fat overnight, right? And your weight loss won’t be resolved overnight. Remind yourself that all of those little steps you used to take created the avalanche you are now cleaning up. Stop snowing and start melting that fat. You can do it. One step at a time.
SPOUSES ARE NOT ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNERS
Spouses do not count as accountability partners. While they may support your efforts, when push comes to shove they may have a hard time holding you accountable. Marriage is tough enough; then when you give them the right to pound you down when you have a moment of weakness and they act on it – NOT A GOOD THING. That stressful day at work that “forced you” to eat that chocolate just got a lot more stressful when your spouse thought they were gently reminding you of your goals. Before you know it, you not only went back on your word, but you put your spouse in a difficult spot where they came out the loser instead of you. So, let’s be clear – accountability partners can’t be your significant other UNLESS you can seriously face the critiques you asked them to give you.
How does being accountable feel to you? Do you see that as a hindrance or a help? If you see it as a hindrance, why? Add your thoughts in the comment section!